As we know depression is an often debilitating illness that comes on many forms, not just “feeling low” or “lethargic” or “can’t be bothered”… It affects all areas of life from basic health and hygiene to working to pay the bills and feed ourselves.
In the dictionary depression is defined as: “feelings of severe despondency and dejection”, “ a mental condition categorised by feelings of severe despondency and dejection, typically with feelings of inadequacy and guilt, often accompanied by a lack of energy and disturbances of appetite and sleep.”
1 in 4 of us will, or do, suffer from depression and its effects on our lives
A shocking statistic, but a true one nonetheless. There is a wealth of help out there to help us navigate through the minefield that is depression, but, we have to want to get that help.
We have to be able to ask for it, to put one foot in front of the other to get that all important help we need… When it hits hard, it’s very, very difficult to even utter the words “I need help” so we often sit in silence, sometimes for longer periods of time, sometime not, we can never tell how long it’s gonna hold us down for.
If you know me personally or if you’ve heard me talk during a live video or seen a post, you’ll know that I have suffered with depression and chronic anxiety my whole life.
At the age of just 10 years old I was diagnosed with a duodenal stomach ulcer. I had initially gone to the doctor with pains in my chest which were down to stress which then led to my stomach being sore. Tests were done. A “barium meal” where they made me drink some thick liquid they called a milkshake (tasted nothing like one!) and then this powder they called “sherbet” that made the “milkshake” froth up… Both tasted nothing like they said and I remember very chalky, gritty feeling in my mouth! Not nice!…
They had me on an X-ray table and I remember them letting me see my belly, which was so cool for my 10 year old self!… I remember the doctor telling my mum and I that I had an ulcer and showing me the picture of the stomach and him explaining me that he had to get a second and third opinion because he couldn’t believe that a 10 year old had an ulcer! Dr. Shah was his name. I’ll never forget that for as long as I live!
We all deal with depression and anxiety in different ways
Some face it head on and don’t let it bother them, whereas others do let it bother them and let it begin them down, each is fine, we all have to do what works best for us in the moment.
However, what if I told you that with practice and patience, you absolutely can take charge of your depression symptoms and you can stop it from affecting you as much, and eventually completely put a stop to the debilitation that so often comes with it.
My 5 Methods
I am going to give you my 5 methods that I use to deal with my depression and anxiety in the hope that they can help you deal with your own depression and anxiety.
Don’t beat yourself up!
When depression starts to take hold and you have the thought pattern and feelings that come with it and tasks get put off, people get put off and plans get changed. When the housework starts to pile up and you start to feel it’s just too much. Take a second out. Just think to yourself that you have been through this before. You’ve fallen into that cycle before and all the things that feel like they’re weighing down on you right now, they’ve done it before…
The point is, you got through it then and you’re gonna get through it this time too!
If things annoy you, just do one wee thing at a time. Remember, you’re a human being having a natural response to a perhaps bad chemical reaction in the body, a spiritual shift, a set of circumstances that hasn’t been healed and left on the past, or there’s no reason at all and it just is what it is… Either way, you’re doing the absolute best you can with what you have right at that moment.
Take Time Out
They say that when depression hits it’s not the done thing to isolate ourselves and not talk to people.
Well, I can tell you through experience, that that can be one of the most healing things we can do for ourselves, especially if you are sensitive to others energy!
So, if you feel like taking time outs then do it. Take stock, do what you have to do, sit about in your jammies, go for walks, watch trashy tv… whatever it takes to make you feel better, lighter and more able to manage things.
As a sort of footnote to this part, I will say that if you do choose to isolate yourself, it’s a good idea to check in now and again with a friend or someone you can trust to let them know you are okay. This will save an ear bashing or bum kicking later!
You don’t have to be William Wordsworth or Agatha Christie, a Van Gogh or Picasso to get creative. All you need is a pen or pencil and some paper and you’re all set. Don’t overwhelm yourself with what you’ll create, just start off with one word, or one scribble and let nature take its course. You’ll find that it helps you to feel less depressed and more uplifted and lighter.
It’s purpose, getting creative, is to work the mind and take the focus off the negative mind chatter or feelings that keep us where we are when we’re depressed so that we can come from a different perspective and deal with the cause, or at the very least, the symptoms.
Either make some or listen to some and lose yourself in it. Music is an amazing thing that not only sounds amazing but it does some pretty awesome stuff to the brain. It works both sides of he brain and helps us to change our moods, sometimes without us even thinking about it. It doesn’t even matter the genre, it’s about how you feel with it. It is obviously beneficial to listen to more uplifting music, but, if listening to metal-core music or classical music make you feel good, so be it, carry on with that and lift yourself up!
Yes, I know, when we feel down and depressed and anxious we really don’t feel like it let alone want to go out, but, the benefits of getting some fresh air about us makes all the difference. It clears away stagnant energy that’s built up in our aura, it helps us feel fresher, or minds become clearer and we’re better able to manage how we go about things, make choices and just generally be. We also get a greater connection to the earth and her nurturing, healing energy.
Help & Support
There are a multitude of ways in which we can manage our depression and anxiety, it is up to you to find out what works best for you, you only you will know that. The purpose of this mini blog is to provide you with a stepping stone to help you move forward, no matter how small a movement and to let you keep that even though in your dark times you feel like it, you really are not alone in this.
There are organisations out there that can help you and all are readily available on line to search for and contact:
Mind 0300 123 3393
Mental Health Foundation 020 7803 1101
Childline 0800 1111
Anxiety UK 08444 775 774
Your local doctors surgery will also have information and help there for you, do not be afraid to ask for it.
You are never alone, never. Reach out to someone you trust and take the first step in helping yourself manage your depression and anxiety.
Sending you so much love and blessings,
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